Do you ever wonder “Why do I like rough sex?”
Does the thought of pain excite you? Are you wondering if it’s normal?
You’d be surprised how common it is to crave it rough. In fact, study shows that women are 63% more likely to view rough sex porn than men. But in both men and women, studies show that orgasms are way more frequent and intense when sex is rough. So why are there so many provocative sluts?
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Why do people like rough sex?
The definition of rough sex varies from person to person. Some people see spanking as rough while some people see spanking as part of vanilla sex. Generally, rough sex is when sex inflicts pain and/or is aggressive… which is strikingly similar to BDSM. Aggressive sex can also be just verbally aggressive. For example, calling someone your “dirty little whore.” It does not have to inflict any physical pain.
Research shows that the sensation of pain and the sensation of pleasure activates the very same part of the brain- the ventral pallidum. However, two different neurotransmitters balance pain and pleasure. GABA is released to slow brain activity when seeking pleasure/reward and glutamate is used to excite the brain so you can avoid pain.
Our pain tolerance increases when we are doing things pleasurable such as having sex. Having sex already releases brain chemicals/hormones called endorphins. Our body releases these chemicals and acts as a natural painkiller. Painkillers can give you a high. The rush of endorphins from being in pain and having sex gives you a rush like no other.
The taboo of rough sex is also part of the appeal. It triggers psychological arousal. Humans crave being scared, that’s why we have things such as roller coasters and scary movies. It’s psychologically arousing.
The best thing about rough sex and BDSM is the tremendous amount of trust it requires. That connection makes sex even hotter than it already is. Being in pain makes you vulnerable. Which is also psychologically arousing. Be very careful about who you give this power to. The deep trust is so powerful and makes the sex intense.
Keep in mind that ROUGH SEX is sex between CONSENTING adults. Rape is not rough sex. Do not get that twisted. Make sure your partners are OK with it.
Why do women like rough sex?
Like mentioned above, women are more than likely to watch rough porn than men. In my taboo sex fantasies post, there’s a theory that women liked to be taken or fantasize about rape because of the stigma against women loving and wanting sex. So being taken or the rape fantasy is a blameless fantasy. She gets what she wants by force.
Another reason is that rough sex and BDSM in general requires pure trust. When sex is rough, it’s not about just sex. It’s about that bond. Trusting someone enough to take control of your body means you become part of them. Women crave that connection.
Men crave that connection too and that’s ok. But women are more likely to crave something that isn’t purely physical. Which is why rough porn is so appealing to women. It pulls on your emotional and psychological strings. Men tend to be more simple.
Women like to be desired so bad that a man cannot help themselves and engage in rough sex.
Why do men like rough sex?
Even though roles can definitely be reversed, during rough sex, the man tend to be the dominant one. In a society where masculinity is being challenged, rough sex can be an outlet for men. Power is intoxicating.
The complete opposite can be true with men who are powerful in their daily lives.
So basically, there are biological reasons why some of us love it rough. So next time someone looks at you funny for liking it rough, tell them IT’S SCIENCE!
It is also important to point out rough sex should be with people you trust.
Check out our BDSM art collection to see the art of people taking pain.
