The cheatsheet to giving head.
Lack of confidence can make one avoid oral sex altogether. This cheatsheet will make you so confident to give head that you will never hesitate to dive right in ever again.
If you want blow people’s minds or get them hooked on you, here’s a list of straight forward tips– no bs or personal stories like most blogs- that would work for any gender. Remember everyone is different! Remember, communication is key… if you get a marriage proposal right after, don’t forget my wedding invite.
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General Oral Sex Tips (giving Head):
Oral sex is so much fun so let’s make it fun. Giving head could be an act of foreplay- to warm things up… or it could be the main event. Here are a few ways to make make sex explosive with these oral sex tips that will teach you how to suck a guy OR go down on a girl. In other words, these tips are for giving head to either a man or a woman.
- Speak up! Don’t pretend you’re an oral sex God/Goddess if you don’t know how to give head. It’s silly and does nothing but hinder your sexual learning experience. No matter what age, it’s totally OK to learn. Being honest about your skill level will turn you into a pro. ASK what they like. COMMUNICATE.
- The build up. A few may like going in for the kill immediately but DESIRE and CRAVING is part of hot sex. Teasing and taking things slowly initially gives you the chance to feel around and get to know your partner’s genitals. Pay attention to reaction when you get to certain parts. Making your partner want it more and more makes the grand finale more satisfying and intense. The length of teasing depends on your partner. Pay attention to reactions. Going too fast and hard initially is a common mistake.
- Kiss and nibble around the genitals for a little excitement and anticipation. A lot of people’s erogenous zones are their inner thighs. The inner thighs are sensitive. There are plenty of nerve endings there and close to the genitals. Pay attention to that before you give head.
- Make a little noise. Sounds create vibration and vibration is a good addition when you give head. Your partner can feel when you moan a little. It also indicates that you’re enjoying yourself and that’s HOT.
- Hands. Don’t be afraid to use your hands for a little assistance. Besides, who wouldn’t enjoy a little dual action? Use your hands and fingers to stimulate the genitals while doing so with your mouth.
- Eye contact. Can be awkward for some but eye contact can make some feel super connected and present in the moment.
- Don’t forget other body parts like the nipples, squeeze their ass, play with their ass. Play with other body parts. The back door has TONS of nerve endings and could be fun to play with on a man OR woman. Double the pleasure! Make sure you get permission first because not everyone is OK with it or have much experience with anal play.
- NO TEETH. Do I need to say more? Ouch!
- Hydrate! Dry mouth is just as fun as dry intercourse. Tons of friction, discomfort and possible pain! Make sure you are well hydrated. Try these mints to prevent cotton mouth. Make your mouth nice and watery!
- Express how much you enjoy pleasing them. Talk to your person. Tell them how good they taste, make some pleasure noises or throw a few winks. Part of the pleasure and excitement is knowing you enjoy doing it. Make sure your partner knows this is not a chore and their pleasure is yours too.
- Don’t forget oral hygiene. With all the saliva going on, the last thing you want is your partner’s genitals smelling like garlic or bad breath. Sometimes we cannot smell our own breath so keep your mouth nice and fresh to avoid awkward moments. Also, treat bleeding gums or anything that may lead to infection of the mouth.
Tips for Cunninglingus (How to Go Down On A Woman):
Cunninglingus is a very interesting word. In fact, before updating this article, I had it spelled wrong the entire time.
Cunninglingus is a term used to describe the act of going down on a person with a vagina/vulva. It’s also called eating out, eating pussy, licking- all terms to describe the act of using your mouth to pleasure a vagina/vulva.
Want to learn how to go down on a woman? Try these amazing ways.
- Lightly flick the clit with your tongue. Lightness can be super arousing and just as exciting as pressure depending on your partner. Learning her clit is how you learn how to go down on a woman.
- Tongue movements on the clit (especially) and labia: figure 8, up and down, zig zag, tiny circles (the favorite), pulsating on one spot. Try them all! See what your partner likes.
- Lighting sucking on the clit can drive one CRAZY. Some like hard sucking. Try both to see her reaction.
- When learning how to go down on a girl, learn the person. Discover what your partner likes, stay consistent. Constantly switching up can make it harder for your partner to settle into the sensation.
- Spread the labia. This REALLY exposes the clit- the body part that has a sole purpose of pleasure. The labia is the folds of skin that surrounds the opening of the vagina. The vagina lips protect the labia so don’t confuse the two. Let’s just say the inner pair of lips.
- Penetrate with fingers. Try to lighty play with the g spot. The G spot is a spot located on the front vaginal wall. Every woman is different but it’s usually 2-3 inches inside of the vagina. You can usually feel it with your fingers- some say it feels like a wet orange peel. You will know because it’s a different texture than the rest of the vagina. In and out and circular motion are two movements you can try.
- Read Give Her a Mind Blowing Orgasm… I tell you WAY more about how to go down on a woman.
Keep in mind every woman is different but we are primarily focused on the clit. Some women like high pressure, some like low pressure. Some like fast licking, some like slow licking. How to go down on a girl is to ASK her what she likes.
Tips for Fellatio (how to Give The Best Blow Job):
Fellatio is a beautiful word to me. It sounds like a beautiful name or a beautiful song. It sounds fancy and it rolls off the tongue very beautifully…. pun intended.
Fellatio is a term to describe the act of using your mouth to pleasure a penis. Some may call it sucking dick, BJ, sucking or blow job.
Learning how to suck is much less complicated than learning how to go down on a woman. This is not to say giving a penis pleasure orally requires little effort. In fact, learning how to suck your partner requires just as much communication as orally pleasing someone with a vagina/vulva.
Here are some tips on how to give the best blow job.
- Give a handjob while sucking the tip. Find out your partner’s favorite rhythm, how hard or soft they like to be stroked. How much pressure do they like? How fast do they like it? Make it wet for extra credit. Use your mouth to stimulate one area while using your hand to stimulate another area.
- Speaking of wet, most do not like dry friction. It can hurt and cause the penis to go raw. So make it nice and wet. A hack to produce more saliva is try to deep throat it. Take that penis in all the way as far as you can to activate the salivary glands to make your mouth nice and slippery.
- Make out with or flick the frenulum a little bit with your wet tongue. That is the area on the bottom where the shaft meets the head. Let’s pretend the penis is pointing directly at your face. You see that mushroom tip? The frenulum is the bottom half of that mushroom tip. It is a very sensitive area. Learning how to suck is knowing where to lick.
- The tip of the penis is the most sensitive so play, lick, suck, hard or soft ..whatever your partner wants you to do with it.
- Don’t forget the testies! Some like them gently sucked, sucked hard, fondled, grabbed- find out! Put your mouth on them while still stroking the penis.
- Use your tongue. It’s not all about the sucking. It’s about licking too. You can also pulsate your tongue WHILE sucking. When that penis is in your mouth move your tongue around. How to give the best blow job is to multitask!
- Relax the back of your throat. Get it deep in there! Take the whole thing like a dirty little…. Sorry I was about to get carried away. Relax the back of your throat and don’t think too much about it. The less you think about it, the deeper it goes.
Learn how to suck and how to give the best blow job by TALKING TO HIM!
How To RECIEVE Head
Ok now it’s your turn. You might be a little self conscious and nervous. A LOT of people are.
Sometimes people are too worried if they look, smell and/or taste ok down there that they forget to lay back and RECEIVE. So yes, receiving oral can be just as nerve wrecking as learning how to give it.
Having your legs spread open to someone’s face can make you vulnerable and possibly insecure.
Here are ways to enjoy being on the receiving end.
- Let go and trust that your partner is enjoying you. Keep in mind that the smell and taste of a person can act as an aphrodisiac. We call it pheromones. Let your partner enjoy every bit that comes with tasting someone.
- Take deep breaths. Deep breathing allows you to be very present and induces relaxation. The more relaxed you are, the more your pleasure is the center of this moment.
- Forget orgasming. Sounds counter productive but trying to focus on the orgasm increases unnecessary stress and pressure on yourself. The less you are concerned about orgasm, the better the chances you will have one. This is about the journey and the moment anyway.
- Connect with your partner by holding hands, rubbing their head, eye contact- whatever it takes to connect with them in other ways besides your genitals being in their mouth. This reduces the chances of over thinking.
- Let them know how much you’re enjoying it and be honest about it. No fake moans or lying. If you’re enjoying let them know. They’d LOVE to hear about it. If not, also let them know and give a little direction.
Oral sex is a very intimate act for both partners. Giving and receiving is what makes things flow.
Is Oral Sex Safe?
Don’t think for a second that oral sex comes without risks. Sure, you can’t get pregnant but you can still get STIs.
Get checked for STDs regularly.
Were you a pro already but learned something here?
